Turn Your Remorse into A Resource
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Many of us have lost loved ones no matter the cause of death they're all considered tragic. This blog is to help shed light on how we never forget them but we learn to live without them. I know it may seem harsh to do but it must be done if you want a chance at peace and happiness. You must gain complete consciousness of your emotions and feelings. Not allowing the unfamiliar to depress you but subject you to new realms. Letting go is hard but it's more than worth it. Initially the first step to anyone problem is to acknowledge their is a problem. A lot of us are in denial that we're hurting from our lost ones especially when a significant amount of time has passed.
You don't think you've been affected by it much because you're still functioning but I can almost bet that your mental is a wreck! You're probably very indecisive about things. You don't know which way to go most of the time. You probably got a bad habit or maybe even addiction. When you break down it's from a build up but usually a feather that broke the camels back. Even the lightweight stress holds too much weight. Sometimes you have to take a break and regain yourself. If you must think, think about the good stuff. Never try to erase them from your mind because you'll only suffer more do. You have to let your emotions free, if you withhold them you'll only tear yourself down. It's okay to be vulnerable but do dwell in vulnerability you must recover. Believe me tragedy is hard for everyone, you're not the only whose lost someone that they hold dear to there heart! No matter how many times you experience this, it can still feel unbearable.
The process of acceptance is simple but the progression is difficult. 1.) Analyze the situation 2.) Understand the circumstances 3.) Accept the reality 4.) Distract your mind
Don't rush nor skip a step each are vital to the proceeding one.
Analyze- If you don't know why or how a person passed that could leave much anguish and remorse within a person or maybe it's the fact you were there and didn't do all that you felt you could. Understand- One must understand that for every input there is an output so for every situation there are circumstances. We don't have full control over things as much as we like. And we are constantly in a chain of reactions. Accept- This is the most critical step! Accepting the situation as is with alternatives or implications. No under nor over analyzing but fully accepting. Distract- After you've completed all the previous steps the next thing to do is distract your mind. Remove things from the home that put an emotional drain on you! Find new hobbies and ventures! Don't allow yourself to dwell in sorrow, distract your mind!
This takes time to manage and by all means this is not a race but a CHANCE for recovery! HONOR your loved ones every chance you get and leave a positive regard after every visit. When you hold a healthy relationship with people, its much more easier to let them rest than when you hold an unhealthy one. This is very critical because we often forget that relationships of any sort take effort and support!
We tend to forget people until death arrives at their door and we realize we let time pass us by without making many memories or being angry over foolish things. You must try to maintain those healthy relationships just as you maintain your appearance and hair. The social aspect is seen as leisure but it's more of a necessity to human beings.
