Dating Sucks!

Today we want to touch on a topic that's sensitive to us all. And Tt That bias topic is dating for love! Which we all know can be a hassle in the 21st century. We all have our own definition of what we think love is. I truly believe the definition of love we hold individually affects us when we come into contact with someone else. We learn that every person have a visual of how they'd like to be loved and a list of ways they'd not like to be loved from experience. We create expectations for others that we ourselves don't even amount to. Ladies evaluate the qualities you want or like in a guy and ask yourself can you even offer that yourself?

Many of us will have a list of things we want but not once take into consideration if we are even anything to want (yeah I said it!). You have to understand a relationship is about give and take, so you will use and be used. As long their is a mutual understanding this will never be an issue of conflict. Understand not all relationships are meant to last, some are really to provide you with knowledge and experience. Dating is nothing but experimenting with love! You try different candidates of different backgrounds hoping for different endings but in the process how much of yourself did you change out of spite? You have to readjust yourself after each relationship especially before entering a new one.

Here are 5 things to consider that may help when dating: 1.)

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You never want to bring old baggage because you don't know what luggage is already awaiting you. Take the time to learn yourself every time a relationship ends and even when a new one begins! 2.)

Men are liable creatures! So you have to make sure you're doing your part before you begin to nag and fuss. Also ladies it's okay to pursue what you want, be clear and precise! Once you've made your point clear, leave it up to the man to do the rest! If he can get with the program keep him and if not drop him!!!! I've come to learn men like to be pursued because it shows them your a woman who knows what she wants. This is also dangerous if you don't know when to fall back(you know when you're not interested in a guy so don't ignore the signs he display during pursuit). 3.)

Make sure you're communicating effectively with the person you have interest in. Don't leave them in the dark about how you feel. Never be afraid to express yourself. If you feel like sending a random message expressing your like/love for them go for it! Voice your frustrations and emotions, don't shun them that's the only way for a person to understand. 4.)

Don't ignore gut feelings. If you have a certain feeling plaguing at you just ask the individual in question. If the feeling stays after you receive an answer allow them to know your position. Pursue research to help put you at ease but no petty tactics! 5.)